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There has been a spate of over policing at Melbourne protests, especially at protests involving the ongoing Australian moral crisis with regards to refugees in manus and Nauru.

Now, Vic Police are running around telling people to be afraid of the ‘African youth gangs’, which do not even exist.

Victoria Police and African Australians

Historically, Vic Police have been known to racially profile Muslims and African Australians, to the point where the state coroner had to request an inquest into the death of an African Australian man because of how little Vic Police cared about the case, echoing how the Ethiopian community has no trust in the Footscray Police Department, which is well-known within Footscray for racially profiling immigrants in Footscray, an area that continues to house many immigrant communities.

In Melbourne (and all over Australia) African Australians are often “subjected to assaults and racial taunts, and were regularly stopped and questioned by police in circumstances where a non-African would not have been stopped and questioned.”

“The results showed young African people were about two-and-a-half times more likely to be subject to an arbitrary ”stop and search” relative to their numbers in the area. The justification given for such policing rests on their supposedly high representation in local crime statistics. Yet Professor Gordon found there were fewer offences but markedly higher ”stops and searches” among young African Australians compared with others.”

Read that again: there is less crime by African Australians but they are stopped more by the police. Vic Police has openly admitted to having unfair practices, and promised to make changes.

Those changes have not happened.

Victoria Police and other communities of colour

Over and over again, there are reports of Victoria Police being racist, not just towards Black people, but South Asians as well. Two police officers were suspended for laughing at a video of an Indian man being killed and then making comments such as “it could be a way to fix Melbourne’s Indian student problem.”

Victoria Police and sexual abuse

Sexual harassment is rampant in Victoria police, and policewomen find it much harder to get ahead in the force. Up to 2/3 of sexual assault victims do not even call the police, as they have no faith in them. Women are stopped by Vic Police and sexually assaulted by them and Aboriginal women are raped by the police. 

I have had friends be asked what they were wearing. A friend who needed protection from an abusive boyfriend was asked why she did not leave him sooner.

How can you trust Vic Police when they continuously behave in such abusive ways?

No Good Cops

There is no such thing as a good cop. People talk about good cops, but good cops are still part of a system that disproportionately targets immigrants and indigenous people. The only good cop is the whistleblower cop, who tells the world how racist and sexist the police are. Those cops are usually threatened and cowed into silence, or immediately off the force if they try to break their silence.

Which brings us back to: there is no such thing as a good cop.

Policing at Melbourne protests

It is no surprise that agents of a racist state are themselves, violent racists. A police force that disregards human life, that has no respect or basic decency towards people expressing those rights by marching or protesting is the first step in the descent into Fascism. It is one of the first steps a state takes when it is getting ready to strip you of your rights.

Whatever your thoughts on refugees, I would like to think Australians would be against their basic rights and freedoms being taken from them. It is in your best interest to stop Vic Police from overreach and from extending their already considerable powers.

Stop supporting Vic Police. It is only a matter of time when they come for you.


2017 was a crazy year for me. The highs were such highs, and the lows were so low. I honestly struggled through a lot of it, and at many times feel that my friends didn’t care, like I had no one to talk to, and that I was really alone. At the same time, I hit some highs in my career: I performed and spoke at the Melbourne Writer’s Festival, I got some of my writing published (and paid!) As for my body and fat positive fashion blogging, I think I did some really lovely work, but because I don’t look like the other bloggers running the biz, I get no attention or love.

I do fashion for poor, dark-skinned women of color-the ones who can’t afford Ashley Graham’s new line or constantly be buying clothes every time FashionNova puts out something. For the fat woman who is discriminated against and already paid less in her job, and just wants to look good without buying new things or constantly having to make her face up like Kim Kardashian to do so.

I am so tired of body positivity, actually. It cuts out fat women, women of color, poor women who can’t afford the latest plus size designer’s clothes, disabled women, dark-skinned women, GNC women, etc. It has become such a co-opted phrase and people like Iskra Lawrence, who is basically a skinny girl with big hips, are the face of the movement. The people with the biggest names and followings in the plus size world are usually white/ light-skinned and actually just skinny people with a little curves. I’m so disgusted by that, and I’m just over it.

In 2018, I really hope this changes. I hope that dark-skinned, fat, queer, differently abled women become the standard for fat positivity, cos fuck body positivity and its mainstream tendencies, and that none of this depends on the number of followers, likes and comments you can buy.

I hope to smile more, laugh more, love more and move on onto bigger things with my writing.

To all my fat, poor, dark-skinned chicks: Bring back that light in your eyes. May all your dreams come true, and more importantly, may you never need anyone else’s validation to realise that you are worth it.

You are enough.


  1. Prioritise those that prioritise you. Show up for those who show up for you. Don’t feel bad about giving antecedence to some people over others. Don’t feel bad about showing up for some people over others. Some people have reasons, some people have excuses, but either way the net result is the same. If someone is not present in your life, there is no need for you to be present in theirs.
  1. Time heals everything for me, and my fervent wish is that it does for you. Time will phase out the people who don’t matter anymore (even if they did at one point) and time will even ease the guilt you feel at not feeling too much pain over that. Time will open you and bring new people to you.
  1. Call out, admonish, destroy the people who have tried to silence you, erase you or just simply continue to disrespect you. If they did not want to be publicly excoriated, they should have behaved better.
  1. If you are a racial minority in Singapore who is not rich, obsessed with becoming as Chinese as you can, or willing to sell your soul to get ahead-leave. Find a way: just get out. Things really are better out there. Even living in Australia (a country with a horrible track record with refugees and indigenous people) has done so much for me. Not that Australians aren’t racist, but the daily indignities heaped upon us by Chinese people everywhere in Singapore can really wear us down. Here, I get smiled at on the streets, I get service in shops and I get treated as human everywhere. Go, get out, just run. You will be much happier outside Singapore.
  1. You either live a life of resistance or compliance: there is no in-between. If you are not resisting the structures that seek to violently dehumanise and ruin the lives of oppressed people, you are in compliance with them. If you are not actively working to better the lives of those in your community, you are working against them.
  1. Having said that, none of us can live lives completely free of compliance. Sometimes, in order to continue resisting, you need to comply. We use iPhones to organize, poor people buy clothes made in sweatshops in order to survive, and even vegans cannot live cruelty-free lives until those farming their vegetables are given fair wages. That’s okay, capitalism is a totality. Do what you can, when you can, but do not use this as an excuse not to do what is within your ability, and do not accept this as an excuse from people who have the ability to do much better.
  1. Learn the difference between critics and haters. Some people are just jealous and petty, and terrified of the power they see in you, of the impact you have on the world. Some people genuinely want to help you grow. It is not difficult really, to be able to make the distinction. As Cornel West says, “Justice is what love looks like in public.”
  1. Ignore the haters. Those people who show up with nothing to contribute. Loads of Chinese Singaporeans do this with me (and even some minorities who do not seem to realise that they are protecting a system that hates them). You do not owe anyone a debate, a conversation, a discussion, anything. If people come to you in bad faith, you have every right to walk away. Also, astronauts do not ‘debate’ receptionists at NASA over space travel. In order to have a conversation with me, you need to come with a basic understanding of what I am saying. Anything else means I am educating you, and you need to be paying me for that.
  1. Silence is the greatest communicator: if someone is not speaking to you, it is because they do not want to and their reasons do not matter. Take it, sit with it, and then leave it.
  1. We are the sum of all the people we have ever loved.




Chinese Singaporeans always want us all to work together, to fight the good fight for democracy and be anti-PAP and all that, but the conversation is rarely, “As a Chinese Singaporean, how can I empower people of all races and other people who are not in the same position of privilege as me?”

Look at the anti-PAP camp, the opposition parties and just basically most Chinese liberals. They’re incredibly racist-they think me talking about racism is making racism worse (remember how I told y’all that they are basically the white people of Singapore?) and they will only support the minorities who talk about race in the most unthreatening ways possible. The opposition parties are just as racist as the PAP, and only want minorities when we are useful tokens.

Chinese Singaporeans who hate the PAP love to talk the democracy talk, but want minorities to subsume all our issues under their Chinese banner: we are expected to hold off on talking about racial inequality until democracy comes to Singapore aka Chinese issues come first.

So please, let’s leave this whole “we’re all on the same team” crap behind.

 Singaporean minorities all know what game you’re really trying to play.

Originally published on Facebook on September 19th 2013

No Fucks Given

December 9, 2017


Let me tell you something about the losers and the haters: they are always showing up on #curvy and #fat women’s pages leaving comments as if we care what an absolute stranger thinks of us. But that’s the thing: they are so desperate for our attention because men who live in their mother’s basements usually are.

It’s so easy to be brought down by these comments, by their cruelty and their disgust, but realize this is a reflection of them. They are the disgusting people, so full of spite and hatred that it comes spewing out of them.

Men like these who leave comments like these are the reason so many women are afraid to put their photos online.

Well, fuck that.

I’m hot, you’re hot, and us curvy girls will remain smokin’ while these men remain pathetic.